The word “shared” in an activity that requires personal accountability and ownership for results without fault, blame or guilt causes a problem. “Let’s share the decision making on this.” How about let’s not!
You have no doubt heard the term “button pushing”. Has anyone ever pushed your button? Button pushing is pretty common in personal relationships. Over time, we may learn exactly how to push our spouse’s button and act all innocent when they react. It is a strange kind of power over someone when it works.
If you are challenged by all there is to do on your team and find yourself rescue, fixing and saving much more than you would like to because it all has to be done to meet deadlines and customer expectations it might be time for a Venn diagram time out to SHOW the team that it isn’t just you being overwhelmed or dramatic.