The definition of success is not a hard and fast rule; there is no right or wrong – however, being in integrity with how you define success allows you to make conscience choices regarding external conditions.
Whenever I am angry I ask myself this question, “What is it I do not want to be responsible for right now?” In the privacy of my mind, I go exploring, willing for an answer to emerge even it the answer implicates me.
The word “shared” in an activity that requires personal accountability and ownership for results without fault, blame or guilt causes a problem. “Let’s share the decision making on this.” How about let’s not!
If "It’s just easier to do it myself" is common when you think about holding someone accountable you are wearing a neon sign that reads -- "UNDER PERFORMERS WELCOME HERE". Yep, that's right, you are very likely attracting what you most complain about when you rescue, fix and save.