If you want the problem solved you have to own the problem fully; this is different than blaming yourself, and it is a source of personal power that is very effective when it is genuine.
Blame others for all the good things that happen to you.
With all the emphasis on employee engagement these days, be accountable for your own engagement and if you can’t get there with a control freak for a boss, get going!
You can lament all the areas of your life that need improving, and hope for a miracle. Or you can realize that you have the power to fix everything yourself! Put that cape on and change your world.
The most powerful influence you have in your life is personal accountability. But each day you may unintentionally give it away. Don’t let these accountability escape routes get the better of you. 1) I don’t have time. Sometimes you can’t research, learn and do everything there is to do. You have to trust other’s expertise…
“I love to go to work.
I love to get things done.
I love the work I do.
I really enjoy the challenges at work and who I get to work with.”
Honestly, it’s hard to listen to people talk these days without cringing. Everyone has perfectly logical-sounding reasons why things did or didn’t happen, and they’re happily slinging them around like short-order cooks. And why not if it gets you off the hook from owning up to the consequences of your personal choices, actions and behaviors? Are your “reasons” really just “excuses”… and what’s the difference?
No, they aren’t “You’re the winner” or “Hey, good lookin’” or even “I love you.” You have the power to transform every experience, group or organization you are a part of … and thus create your own success and stress-free happiness. And it all starts with a few little words coming out of your mouth at the right time in the right place.
We spend half of our lives in the work environment. Conflict can turn a good job into a source of stress. For many people the conflict stays in their head well beyond the actual interaction. They think about, mull over and revisit who said what and why. And the misery must be shared. Unwitting colleagues and family are pulled into the conflict, often not knowing the other player(s). Everyone within earshot of the “victim” catches the conflict. So let’s stop the madness in three, not very easy, steps that will lead you to better relationships and less drama.
Your co-worker was obviously furious. As you sat in a meeting she avoided direct eye contact and when you said hello, she gave you a look that made it clear something had gone wrong.
THE ACCOUNTABILITY SHOWDOWN
After the meeting, as everyone filed out into the hallway she approached you..
Her: “I cannot believe you completely screwed me over like that!”
You: “Excuse me?”
Whenever I am angry I ask myself this question, “What is it I do not want to be responsible for right now?” In the privacy of my mind, I go exploring, willing for an answer to emerge even it the answer implicates me.
A corporate emphasis on valuing diversity and a new best-selling book about succeeding in business by Facebook superstar Sheryl Sandberg have fueled the push for more women in leadership.